Hello GlowGetter,

Week 3: HealingYou may be functioning… but still need healing

Over the past two weeks, we've been walking through this Midlife Awakening Series together.

In Week 1, we talked about Awakening — that quiet but powerful moment when something inside you says, this no longer fits.

In Week 2, we talked about Identity — the roles and labels you may have confused with your true self, and what it means to ask: Who am I becoming now?

And once a woman starts asking those questions? This next pillar almost always rises to the surface.

What still needs healing?

A lot of women are functioning — but not fully healed.

This is one of the biggest truths I want to share with you this week.

You can be responsible, capable, successful, and dependable. You can go to work, take care of everyone, keep the bills paid, and show up every single day.

And all of that can look strong from the outside.

But underneath, you may still be carrying old pain, old fear, old grief, old shame — and old stories about not being enough.

Surviving life is not the same as feeling whole inside it.

Healing starts with honesty.

So many women spend years saying things like: "I'm fine." "It wasn't that bad." "I should be over this by now."

Healing begins when you stop minimizing and start saying: "That hurt. That changed me. I'm still carrying this."

That kind of honesty can feel scary. But it's also powerful, because healing cannot begin where truth is constantly being pushed down.

Pain that isn't processed becomes patterns.

This is one of the most important things to understand.

Rejection can become people-pleasing. Criticism can become perfectionism. Loneliness can become emotional eating. Feeling unseen can become overgiving, hoping to finally be chosen.

So when you find yourself asking "Why do I keep doing this?" sometimes the answer isn't that you're lazy or broken.

Sometimes the answer is: something in you is still hurting.

That's a much kinder conversation. And a much more effective one.

Healing often includes grief.

Not just grieving what happened, but grieving what never did.

The love you hoped for. The safety you needed. The years you spent just trying to survive. The version of yourself you lost along the way.

This kind of grief is quiet. It doesn't always have a name. But if it's never honored, it often turns into bitterness, numbness, or resentment.

Healing asks you to be honest enough to grieve, not to stay stuck, but to finally care for what has hurt.

Healing is not weakness.

I really want you to hear this.

The women who need healing most are often the ones who have been the strongest for the longest. The ones who kept going, held it together, and did what had to be done.

Those women are not weak.

They're just tired of carrying pain in silence.

And midlife? Midlife is often the season where a woman finally says: I don't want to just keep being strong. I want to feel softer, freer, and more whole.

That's not weakness. That's wisdom.

Healing also means ending self-abandonment.

This one is deep.

Because many women aren't only healing from what other people did. They're also healing from how long they've been leaving themselves.

Saying yes when you mean no. Ignoring your body. Staying where you're not valued. Putting yourself last so consistently that your own needs feel like a burden.

Healing deepens when you start asking: Can I stop leaving myself here? Can I stay with myself now?

This week's invitation.

You don't need to solve everything this week. You don't need to unpack your whole past overnight.

Just gently ask yourself:

• What pain am I still carrying that I tend to minimize?
• What pattern in my life might be connected to an old wound?
• Where have I been functioning without truly healing?
• Where do I most need to stop abandoning myself?

Because healing often starts with one quiet truth:

What I'm carrying makes sense. And I don't want to keep carrying it the same way.

Listen to the coordinating podcast episode.

​Head over to The Midlife GlowGetter Podcast – Episode 3: Healing for a deeper dive into everything we covered here. It's the perfect companion to this week's newsletter.

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If this week brought up some tenderness — if you realized you've been carrying more than you let yourself admit — please don't rush past that.

That awareness is not weakness.

It is wisdom.

With love, Jax💗

My High Fives This Week

So this is a list of my top 5 favorite things this past week that brought me joy. I thought I'd share this list with you here in my weekly newsletter. Short and Sweet...right to the point.

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My Two Glow-Ups This Week

My top two Glow-up this week. One woo woo and the other more mainstream and not so woo woo.

Glow-Up 1 - Woo Woo

Dry Brushing the Soles of the Feet

• Practice: Brushing the feet specifically with a stiff natural brush.
• How-To: Before showering, brush the soles of your feet in vigorous circles.
• History: Found in Russian "Banya" and Japanese "Sento" cultures.
• Explanation: Stimulates thousands of nerve endings and the "K1" kidney point, which governs vitality in TCM.
• Solves: Fatigue and poor circulation.

Glow-Up - More Main Stream

Scalp Micro-Circulation Massage

• How-To: Use your fingertips or a silicone scalp brush to massage the scalp in firm, circular motions for 4 minutes daily.
• History: Derived from traditional trichology (the study of hair and scalp) to treat thinning hair.
• Explanation: Increases blood flow to the hair follicles, ensuring they receive the oxygen and nutrients needed for the growth (anagen) phase.
• Solves: Hair shedding and stunted growth.

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