Hello Dear Friend,

Week 5: Relationships

You are allowed to want more honest, healthy, and nourishing relationships

Over the last few weeks, we have talked about Awakening, Identity, Healing, and Body.

And once a woman begins waking up…
once she starts questioning old patterns…
once she starts healing…
and once she starts rebuilding the relationship with her body…

the next place truth often rises is in her relationships.

Welcome to Week 5 of The Midlife GlowGetter 8-Week Awakening Series.

This week’s pillar is Relationships.

And this one is deep.

Because relationships are often where a woman’s greatest joy lives.

But they can also be where pain, confusion, loneliness, resentment, and self-abandonment live too.

This is not only about romance.

This is about a woman’s full relationship life:

• her relationship with herself
• her partner or ex-partner
• her children
• her family
• her friendships
• her community
• how she gives
• how she receives
• how she communicates
• what she tolerates
• and what she wants to feel in connection now

Midlife often reveals the truth about relationships

A lot of women spend years being so busy that they do not stop to ask how their relationships actually feel.

They are:

• working
• caregiving
• keeping the peace
• showing up
• being strong
• doing all the things

And because life is full, a lot gets pushed down.

But in midlife, many women start noticing:

• where they feel unseen
• where they feel drained
• where they feel lonely
• where they feel resentful
• where they no longer want to overgive
• where the relationship no longer fits who they are becoming

That can feel uncomfortable.

But it matters.

Because midlife often does not create the truth about relationships.

It reveals it.

Many women were taught to call self-abandonment love

This is one of the biggest truths in this pillar.

A lot of women were taught that being loving means:

• putting everyone else first
• being agreeable
• being available
• keeping the peace
• overgiving
• forgiving quickly
• making things work no matter what

And because that behavior gets praised, many women grow up thinking:

This is what love looks like.

But many times, what they are really practicing is self-abandonment.

They are:

• swallowing what they feel
• saying yes when they mean no
• tolerating what hurts
• making themselves smaller
• carrying more than their share
• staying silent to avoid conflict
• leaving themselves in order to keep the connection

That is not healthy love.

And midlife often becomes the season where a woman can no longer ignore the cost of that.

She starts realizing:

I do not want love that requires me to disappear.

Overgiving often leads to resentment

A lot of women carry quiet resentment.

They resent:

• always being the one who remembers
• always being the one who plans
• always being the one who checks in
• always being the one who adjusts
• always being the one who gives more
• always being the one who carries the emotional weight

And often they feel guilty for that resentment.

But resentment is not always proof that a woman is unkind.

Sometimes resentment is information.

It may be saying:

• I have been giving more than is honest
• I have been saying yes when I mean no
• I have been overextending myself
• I have not been honest about my limits
• I have been making everyone comfortable while leaving myself out

That matters.

Because resentment often points to the places where truth and behavior are no longer aligned.

Boundaries are not mean

So many women need to hear this:

Boundaries are not mean.
They are not selfish.
They are not lack of love.

They are clarity.

Boundaries help a woman answer:

• What is okay for me?
• What is not okay for me?
• What am I available for?
• What am I no longer available for?
• How do I stay in relationship without abandoning myself?

A lot of women fear boundaries because they are afraid of:

• disappointing people
• being misunderstood
• creating conflict
• losing the relationship

But healthy relationships can handle truth.

And sometimes a boundary is exactly what reveals the truth of a relationship.

That is why boundaries matter.

They protect:

• peace
• dignity
• healing
• energy
• self-respect

Loneliness can exist even in a full life

A woman can have:

• children
• family
• a partner
• friends
• coworkers
• responsibilities
• a full schedule

and still feel deeply lonely.

Because loneliness is not only about being alone.

Sometimes it is about:

• not feeling seen
• not feeling known
• not feeling emotionally safe
• always being the helper, but rarely the one receiving help
• being needed, but not deeply held

A woman can be central to everyone else’s life and still feel emotionally alone in her own.

That kind of loneliness is real.

And midlife often wakes up the desire for more:

• more depth
• more honesty
• more mutual care
• more belonging
• more relationships where a woman can fully exhale

That is not too much to want.

That is human.

This week’s invitation

This week, gently ask yourself:

• Where in my relationships do I feel most seen?
• Where do I feel most drained?
• Where am I overgiving?
• Where am I feeling resentful?
• Where have I confused love with self-abandonment?
• What kind of relationships do I want in this next chapter?
• Where do I most need stronger boundaries, more truth, or more reciprocity?

You do not need to fix every relationship this week.

This week is simply about seeing more clearly.

Because sometimes the first relationship shift is not changing everyone around you.

Sometimes it is finally admitting:

This is how this has been feeling.​
​This is the role I’ve been playing.​
​And this is what I want to begin doing differently now.

Go deeper this week

If you have not listened yet, go listen to:

​The Midlife GlowGetter Podcast – Episode 5: Relationships​

In that episode, I go deeper into:

• why midlife reveals the truth about relationships
• how women are taught to call self-abandonment love
• why overgiving often leads to resentment
• how loneliness can exist even inside a full life
• and what it means to begin wanting more honest and nourishing connection

Final thought

If this week stirred something in you… if it made you realize how much of your life has been shaped by overgiving, silence, loneliness, people-pleasing, or relationships that no longer fit… please know this:

You are allowed to want more.

More honesty.
More peace.
More reciprocity.
More belonging.
More love that does not require you to disappear.

And maybe this next chapter is not asking you to love less.

Maybe it is asking you to love with more truth.

With love,
​Jax

My High Fives This Week

So this is a list of my top 5 favorite things this past week that brought me joy. I thought I'd share this list with you here in my weekly newsletter. Short and Sweet...right to the point.

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​Favorite EVOO​

My Two Glow-Ups This Week

My top two Glow-up this week. One woo woo and the other more mainstream and not so woo woo.

Glow-Up - Woo Woo

Dry Brushing the Soles of the Feet

• Practice: Brushing the feet specifically with a stiff natural brush.
• How-To: Before showering, brush the soles of your feet in vigorous circles.
• History: Found in Russian "Banya" and Japanese "Sento" cultures.
• Explanation: Stimulates thousands of nerve endings and the "K1" kidney point, which governs vitality in TCM.
• Solves: Fatigue and poor circulation.

Glow-Up - More Main Stream

Sulfate-Free Hair Cleansing

• How-To: Switch to shampoos labeled "Sulfate-Free" to avoid harsh detergents like Sodium Lauryl Sulfate (SLS).
• History: Developed as the "Curly Girl Method" and later adopted for aging hair, which is naturally more porous and dry.
• Explanation: Sulfates strip the natural sebum that protects the hair shaft, leading to a "straw-like" texture.
• Solves: Dry, frizzy hair and breakage.

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