Hello Dear Friend,

Week 2: Identity​
​Who have you been… and who are you becoming now?

Last week, we opened this series with Awakening.
That quiet moment in midlife when something inside you says:
​this life… doesn’t quite fit anymore.

And once that awareness begins, a deeper question rises:

Who am I now?

Not just who you’ve been for everyone else.
Not just the roles you’ve played.
But who you really are underneath it all…
and who you are becoming in this next chapter.

Welcome to Week 2 of The Midlife GlowGetter Awakening Series.​
This week’s pillar is Identity.

You are more than the roles you’ve carried

So many women can easily say what they do:

• I’m a mom
• I’m a caregiver
• I’m the dependable one
• I’m the one everyone counts on

And those roles matter.

But they are not the whole you.

Because when you’ve spent years being needed, helpful, strong, and responsible…
it’s easy to lose connection with who you are underneath all of that.

You may realize:

• I know what everyone else needs… but not what I need
• I know how to show up for others… but not for myself
• I know my role… but not my identity

That can feel uncomfortable.

But it’s also where your growth begins.

You may be living from an identity you never chose

Many women are living from identity stories they didn’t consciously create.

They were learned over time through:

• family roles
• expectations
• heartbreak
• body image struggles
• financial stress
• people-pleasing
• the need to feel safe, loved, or accepted

And those stories can sound like:

• I’m not enough
• I’m the strong one
• I’m bad with money
• I’m not confident
• I’m the one who always struggles

After years of repetition, those thoughts feel like truth.

But sometimes… they’re just old scripts.

What feels like “you” might be what you learned to be

This is where things shift.

You might say:

• I’m just independent
• I’m just anxious
• I’m just a people pleaser
• I’m just not confident

But what if some of that isn’t your core identity…
it’s what you adapted into?

Maybe you became independent because others weren’t reliable.
Maybe you became agreeable because conflict didn’t feel safe.
Maybe you became guarded because being open once hurt.

That doesn’t make you broken.
It makes you human.

And once you see that, something opens.

You start to feel compassion for yourself…
and possibility for change.

The “good girl” identity comes with a cost

Many women were taught to be:

• nice
• agreeable
• easy
• helpful
• not too much

And for years, that gets praised.

But over time, it can lead to:

• staying quiet
• avoiding conflict
• not asking for what you want
• not taking up space
• not fully expressing yourself

So a woman can be liked… trusted… admired…

…and still feel:

• tired
• disconnected
• unsure of who she really is

That’s why this work matters.

Because at some point, a woman realizes:

I’ve been manageable… but I’m ready to be honest.

Old labels may still be shaping your life

Many women are still carrying labels from years ago:

• shy
• not pretty
• bad with money
• too emotional
• lazy
• behind
• too much
• not enough

Even if your life has changed…
those labels can quietly stay in the background.

And they shape:

• what you believe you can have
• how you show up
• what you tolerate
• how visible you allow yourself to be

That’s why identity work is so important.

Because you can’t fully step into a new life
while holding onto an old label.

Real identity work feels like remembering

This is the beautiful part.

Changing your identity doesn’t usually feel fake.
It often feels like coming home.

Like:

• there I am
• I forgot this part of myself
• this feels like me… just new again

You’re not becoming someone else.
You’re uncovering who has been there all along.

Your question for this week

Sit with this:

Who have I been… and who am I becoming now?

Journal prompts to guide you:

• What roles have I built my life around?
• What labels have I carried for years?
• What feels true about me?
• What may have been shaped by fear or survival?
• Who did I learn to be to feel safe or accepted?
• Who do I feel myself becoming now?

You don’t need all the answers.

Just start noticing.

That’s enough.

Want to go deeper?

Listen to the coordinating episode:
​The Midlife GlowGetter Podcast – Episode 2: Identity​

And if this week stirred something in you…
I’ll soon be opening a free beta round of:

The Midlife GlowGetter Awakening Virtual Coaching Experience

An 8-week group for women 40+ who want to go deeper into this work with support, structure, and community.

If you feel called, just reply and say:
​“I’m interested.”

Final thought

If this week made you pause…
if it helped you see that parts of your life may have been built on roles, labels, or old stories…

don’t rush past that.

That awareness is powerful.

Because once you see the story…
you can start choosing a new one.

And that’s where everything begins.

With love,
Jax

My High Fives This Week

So this is a list of my top 5 favorite things this past week that brought me joy. I thought I'd share this list with you here in my weekly newsletter. Short and Sweet...right to the point.

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​1.) Favorite Body Oil

​2.) Favorite Matching Lotion​

​3.) Favorite Under Eye Patches​

​4.) Favorite Hair Mist​

​5.) Favorite Men’s Soap (My Son Swears By This)​

My Two Glow-Ups This Week

My top two Glow-up this week. One woo woo and the other more mainstream and not so woo woo.

Glow-Up 1 - Woo Woo

• The "Hot-Cold-Hot" Lymphatic Shower
• Practice: Hydrotherapy for the lymphatic system.
• How-To: 3 mins hot water, 30 seconds freezing cold, 3 mins hot. Always end on cold.
• History: Rooted in German Kneipp therapy.
• Explanation: The "pump" action of vasodilation and vasoconstriction forces lymph fluid to move through filters.
• Solves: Water retention, cellulite, and sluggish metabolism.

Glow-Up - More Main Stream

Hyaluronic Acid "Plumping"

• How-To: Apply Hyaluronic Acid serum to damp skin (never dry) and immediately seal it with a moisturizer.
• History: A naturally occurring molecule in the human body, synthesized for skincare in the late 20th century to combat "dehydration lines."
• Explanation: A humectant that can hold 1,000 times its weight in water, pulling moisture into the upper layers of the skin.
• Solves: Temporary fine lines and "sunken" appearance.

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